‘I was only going to say that heaven did not seem to be my home; and I broke my heart with weeping to come back to earth; and the angels were so angry that they flung me out into the middle of the heath on the top of Wuthering Heights; where I woke sobbing for […]
You do not have to be good.
“You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body Love what it loves.”—Mary Oliver, Wild Geese “You do not have to be good.” I was driving in an agency […]
What to Do With the Anxiety
This morning, I encountered a few things that left me feeling anxious. An insurance company denied a request for a client after I had been on the phone with them for hours; my knee injury was acting up; I probably drank too much coffee. I felt wound up, but also like so many annoying things […]
Where the Light Enters Us
This is the final post in a series about acceptance and letting go of control. In this post, I talk about how truly experiencing loss makes room for new life and growth. ************** “Were it possible for us to see further than our knowledge reaches, and yet a little way beyond the outworks of […]
Acceptance as a Gateway to A More Genuine Life Part 3: The Chinese Finger Trap
So far, we have established that pain is a part of the human experience and that we hold ourselves to unrealistic expectations when we try not to feel pain. We have also established that our brains naturally lead us towards a negativity bias and ‘unhelpful’ thoughts. In this blog post, I’ll be discussing how trying […]
Acceptance as a Gateway to A More Genuine Life Part 2: The Negativity Bias
Last week’s post was about how all human beings experience pain, and how trying to stop ourselves from feeling pain is a natural behavior. Like an animal with a foot in a trap, a human in pain tries everything she can to avoid feeling discomfort. She squirms and tries to run, but only ends up […]
