You do not have to be good.

“You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting. You only have to let the soft animal of your body Love what it loves.”—Mary Oliver, Wild Geese “You do not have to be good.” I was driving in an agency[…]

What to Do With the Anxiety

  This morning, I encountered a few things that left me feeling anxious. An insurance company denied a request for a client after I had been on the phone with them for hours; my knee injury was acting up; I probably drank too much coffee. I felt wound up, but also like so many annoying[…]

Where the Light Enters Us

  This is the final post in a series about acceptance and letting go of control. In this post, I talk about how truly experiencing loss makes room for new life and growth. ************** “Were it possible for us to see further than our knowledge reaches, and yet a little way beyond the outworks of[…]

7 Reasons TFCBT Can Help Your Teen

Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is an evidenced based therapy for traumatized teens and their families. I have successfully implemented TFCBT with dozens of families over the years, but I recently became a TFCBT Certified therapist. Here are some reasons that I find the model particularly helpful and healing to the adolescents and families I work with:[…]

Moving Towards

Yesterday, I had coffee with one of the most amazing women I have ever met, whom I will name “Liz.” I originally met Liz—who is retired and in her 70s—at a party where she was drinking, laughing, and telling us about her upcoming trip to bring solar power and education to people in Uganda and[…]